I somewhat agree with you that it is hypocritical to refuse ads but still go to the website, especially if the website offer a paid option and that you have a Software Developer salary.
However, if you get downvoted, it might also be because complaining about being downvoted (even before actually receiving downvotes) is pretty annoying
Imagine being extorted by Google into paying to avoid ads, being advertised to anyway by sponsored segments hardcoded into videos and being tracked and profiled on top of it all.
Paying just makes your attention even more valuable. If you have enough disposable income to pay for this, they can only imagine what you'll pay for if they manage to get ads in front of your eyeballs.
However, if you get downvoted, it might also be because complaining about being downvoted (even before actually receiving downvotes) is pretty annoying