Judging by what I've seen of adult relationships, it's a column that's needed by more than just "teens."
We, as a species, are afraid of rejection, and we hate being the ones to reject another person. I don't know if it's evolutionary or so ingrained in every culture as to be effectively evolutionary, but somewhere in our caveman brain, we're kicking someone out of a small tribe and leaving them to die, something to be taken very seriously.
Further, we've told these people to quit their current stable jobs, or start making plans with the income they have, rather than thinking of it as fleeting or temporary. It feels like an awful human thing to do, especially to a likable person.
Many of the firing advice columns I've seen are as simple as "it's not the end of the world for either of you." And that's a lesson that takes more than one link on HN to get.
(I think it's also a lesson that's hard in most of our dating lives, from what I've seen..)
Don't really agree with that one. Forcing a relationship to work makes one re-evaluate oneself which might work for better, not worse.
On the other hand, it's time and labour intensive process, and at some point, you really need to cut it.
So, in the article, I basically have issue with point 2, "doing it early". No, you need to try to make it work, and make that process beneficial for both parties. Work it up to a certain point, of course.
We, as a species, are afraid of rejection, and we hate being the ones to reject another person. I don't know if it's evolutionary or so ingrained in every culture as to be effectively evolutionary, but somewhere in our caveman brain, we're kicking someone out of a small tribe and leaving them to die, something to be taken very seriously.
Further, we've told these people to quit their current stable jobs, or start making plans with the income they have, rather than thinking of it as fleeting or temporary. It feels like an awful human thing to do, especially to a likable person.
Many of the firing advice columns I've seen are as simple as "it's not the end of the world for either of you." And that's a lesson that takes more than one link on HN to get.
(I think it's also a lesson that's hard in most of our dating lives, from what I've seen..)