No, you're the one who's making that argument, if you don't believe that it's possible to condition men into not caring about women's looks and all the rest of it. If those things are possible, no problem. But if those things are not possible...
Like I said, you're making a straw man argument. You're saying that getting men to "not care about women's looks" is the same as getting men to stop sexually harassing women. That's simply not true.
And it is definitely possible to change our culture so that sexual harassment is not ok.
(Oh, and you're using a straw man argument to do it.)