This article really hit a nerve with me. I am 21, single, surfer, and have had the opportunity to be able to spend time with many pretty and interesting ladies. But I got accepted into DBC and am now, more or less, out of the "college-mentality" and am now thinking more clearly.
As a 21 year old, when you are not working or studying, almost everything you do revolves around trying to pick up some girl. I got tired of it because I would rather learn software than pretend like I care what some girl is talking about just to get in her pants.
I have known this one girl for 8 years and we have essentially grown up together and spent our teenage years together. I used to be against marriage because of not wanting to get tied down. But she is my best friend, someone who I could spend every day with, which is what marriage really is about. She wouldn't tie me down, because she understands what i am doing and what I want to accomplish. Pursuing some girl just to bed her...would tie me down because you get "addicted" to trying to it. It's fun, but it makes you feel dirty and shameful.
Many of the arguments the OP makes really resonates with some of the reasoning I have come up with. If you have someone who supports you, and she in return is expecting you do to the same, that is the most valuable asset that you could have. It provides better motivation than almost anything else I could think of. She is trusting YOU to provide for her. When your back is against the wall, you can do some pretty incredible things because what your doing HAS TO work.
Not to go too far into it, but the point I was trying to make was I am seriously considering proposing to this girl. I am leaving, so this is kind of my Hail Mary. Maybe this is the worst decision I could ever make, maybe not. Thanks for a great read and I will be taking this article into consideration when making my next move.
As a 21 year old, when you are not working or studying, almost everything you do revolves around trying to pick up some girl. I got tired of it because I would rather learn software than pretend like I care what some girl is talking about just to get in her pants.
I have known this one girl for 8 years and we have essentially grown up together and spent our teenage years together. I used to be against marriage because of not wanting to get tied down. But she is my best friend, someone who I could spend every day with, which is what marriage really is about. She wouldn't tie me down, because she understands what i am doing and what I want to accomplish. Pursuing some girl just to bed her...would tie me down because you get "addicted" to trying to it. It's fun, but it makes you feel dirty and shameful.
Many of the arguments the OP makes really resonates with some of the reasoning I have come up with. If you have someone who supports you, and she in return is expecting you do to the same, that is the most valuable asset that you could have. It provides better motivation than almost anything else I could think of. She is trusting YOU to provide for her. When your back is against the wall, you can do some pretty incredible things because what your doing HAS TO work.
Not to go too far into it, but the point I was trying to make was I am seriously considering proposing to this girl. I am leaving, so this is kind of my Hail Mary. Maybe this is the worst decision I could ever make, maybe not. Thanks for a great read and I will be taking this article into consideration when making my next move.
Keep the good writing coming!